Honor Your Lover

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Classy Dress can be Very Sexy

Classy Dress can be Very Sexy

I crossed the half century mark 2 years ago. During my years, I have experienced many women. Of those many, there have been a handful of long term relationships. By long term I mean more than 2 months. In all of those relationships, including my 18 year marriage, I have never experienced this thing that Amber does. When we are planning to meet, she will text or call and ask me what I want her to wear.

Is that not the greatest thing? I get say in what my lover is going to look like when we are together. If my mood is Classy  with a hint of Slut, I can tell her to wear the green dress unbuttoned to the 3rd button and a ribbed tee under. If I want total slut, I ask for the denim mini and ribbed tee with a pushup bra. Regardless, I get to have input in what she will be wearing for our date.

Consider this our followers. What better way to honor your lover than by allowing them to choose the costume you will wear to the play. Because the costume does dictate the role you will be playing. This has major ramifications. If I am in the mood to tease and pet Amber’s pussy under the table at dinner and she shows wearing slacks, petting is so not happening. If we are going someplace where I want to stun the crowd, slutty is not the look. Classy is look for that. So her asking me what I want her to wear is really allowing me to set the stage for the performance that the evening will be.

I am not so sure that this is a two way street however. As a heterosexual male, the closest thing to caring about my wardrobe is the sniff test to see if the shirt is fresh enough to wear again. Just kidding. But frankly, I think I know what Amber wants to see me wearing and that is what I put on. I don’t ask. I do pay attention to what color my eyes are acting while I am dressing. I have those eyes that can be green or aqua or blue depending on my mood. If they are playing blue, I will select a lighter colored shirt which seems to set off the blue and get them noticed. My version of wearing a push up and ribbed tee, but I cannot dictate the color of my eyes.

Maybe this depends on the dominance levels of the relationship? For sure Amber is submissive to my Mr. B role. And I think she is naturally submissive, so asking me what I want her to wear is logical. But even if you are not submissive by nature, would it not benefit your relationship to allow your lover some say in what you will be wearing when you meet?

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2 thoughts on “Honor Your Lover

  1. complicitgrace

    This was an element in my relationship with my former MM. Gawd….I miss this element so very much and him even more…ugghhh….not a switch so can’t speak to how a blended or more Dom woman would respond to your inquiry

  2. Thanks for posting.
    It is easy to see how much sand has passed through the hourglass once it is empty. Can we shift that glass to slow the fall of the sand?
    Please Read the recent post about Role Play, Keep in mind that all participants need to be in character.
    If We/I can offer any more advice, please continue to post.

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