I have heard said that “The way to a man’s heart tis through his stomach.”
I differ, they way to a man’s heart is through passionate kisses.
Kissing is something that many take for granted. If you are making out with a mediocre kisser, taking it for granted is understandable. If you are blessed my kissing a talented partner, you are lucky, but you may not understand just how lucky you are. The first time you are engaged with a bad kisser, OMG, you quickly become aware of how important that talent is.
Personally, I love kissing. In Junior High I was involved with a girl that was a great kisser. We never went further than kissing, but we could spend hours on the couch kissing. Tongues probing, biting at each other’s lips, breathing in each other’s breath. Kissing can be an intimate, passionate connection.
As I have matured, I also understand that kissing can be playful, teasing or flirty. For examples:
Your lover is standing at the kitchen sink washing the breakfast dishes. You want to show how much you appreciate that they undertook that task without you asking. Come up behind them, kiss them on the side of the neck and say, “You are the best.” Then grab a towel and dry. If that does not lead to sex, it will at least have your mate rushing to wash the dishes.
Starting a few hours before bedtime, start the “tease kiss” attacks. Seek out your partner wherever they may be and kiss them just once each time. Start with a “mother in-law kiss” just a little peck on the cheek. Work in to the light kiss on the lips. Move to the “one hand at the base of the neck” full mouth kiss. The kiss that will carry you to the nearest bed, desk, counter or chair is take your lover’s head in both hands, lean in, pause, make them wait and want that connection. Now engage and let your passion flow from your mouth to theirs.
Kissing is primal. Kissing is how we entice our mate to fuck us like an animal. If you fail to connect on this primitive level, you may not experience that animalistic passion that makes way for unencumbered copulation.
Rather than list all of the ways to be a good kisser, let me share some of the signs that you are not a good kisser:
Bad breath, you may be a talented kisser, but if that garlic pasta from lunch is lingering…..
Over Eager, receiving a kiss properly is almost as important and delivering a good kiss. Think of it as a dance. One partner has to be leading and the other following that lead. If that is not clear, post a question and I will explain further.
Too Timid, if you do not meet your partner with the expected enthusiasm, they may wonder what they are doing wrong. This is a very difficult area. Too Eager/Too Timid… and those are floating points that depend on your partner’s mood, and the energy that is building between you.
Big Mouthed, I have encountered this more than a couple of times (unfortunately). You lean in to give a soft tender closed mouth kiss and you are met with a “large mouth bass” attempting to suck you face off. WTF! Who kisses like that? And who likes being kissed like that? Impromptu vote?
In summary, I guess the keys are:
Know who is leading the “dance” and follow their lead.
Check your breath. Enough said.
Flirt with your kisses. Hold something back for later. Use your kisses as a bread crumb trail to the final destination.
Reward good behavior. If you are liking the kisses and enjoying the seduction, give your partner what they want as a reward.